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Sore Penis

Posted By: Admin - On: March 06, 2010
by Michael Messner

I read your article and stepped out of my office. I went for a bite to eat and went for a walk. I needed some time to be able to think about what to tell you. I wanted to make sure that the advice was solid. My first reaction was to tell you to tell her to stop giving you oral for awhile. Maybe she would take down a bit when she wasn't doing it all the time. That didn't make much sense to me. If she is sucking too hard now, she will suck with more force if she hasn't done it for a long time. Chances are she thinks that she is pleasing you. Maybe a past lover enjoyed being sucked so hard. I know some men brag about how hard their women can suck.
This is one of the emails that we received. This is a real problem and I am glad that he sent us this email.
Hello,
I'm not sure where to start. I am kind of shy about telling you about this. I have never talked to anyone about my sex life before. Not even with my buddies. I guess I don't like to kiss and tell. I am with this great woman. She is the best thing that ever happened to me. She gives me sex when ever I want it. She will have sex 24/7 if I ask her to. The problem is, when she gives me oral, she sucks too hard. It is like she is trying to suck a pea through my penis. It actually hurts a lot. I have had a sore penis for three weeks now because of this. She actually sucks it so hard the head of my penis is sore.
What can I do to stop this?
Thanks,
Matt
Thanks for the email Matt. We love to hear from your readers. It makes me feel like we are actually providing a service to all of you guys out there.

You need to make sure that you are able to talk freely in the bedroom. This is a must. If you can't talk in the bedroom, chances are you can't talk about anything in your relationship. Comunication is very important in a relationship. If you don't talk, it won't last. She is more than a vagina, she should be your best friend. You wake up to this woman every day, you should be able to enjoy her. If you can't, I would say that it isn't worth the amount of time that you invest in her. That is a sad thing, but it is true.

First, I would suggest to you that you evaluate your communication. If you think it is good, then move on from there. If it isn't, then you need to have a conversation about it. You need to tell her that you need to be able to speak your mind. There is no need to be in a relationship that you can't discuss your feelings. If you feel that you are able to be open with her. Tell her that she is hurting you. Don't be full of anger when you tell her. Tell her nicely. She will react in a positive manner. There is no reason to open a can of whip ass on her.

This is what I would do.

Start off with a nice dinner. Cook it yourself if you know how to cook. Set the mood, buy some candles and incense. Make the meal as romantic as you can. Cook things that you can feed each other. Fix oysters or finger sandwiches. Take her up to the room for some great sex. Tell her that you want to tell her what to do. Make it like a role playing game. If she sucks on you too hard, tell her that she is sucking too hard. Tell her that it hurts and to suck more gently. She will do it if you tell her nicely.

During this time, tell her nicely that she was sucking on you too hard. Be gentle and tell her how you like it. Tell her if you like your balls rubbed while she is doing it. Allow yourself to enjoy what she is doing to you. Get loose, if it feels good moan. If she hears you moaning, she will know to keep it up. That will be her signal that she is doing a good job. As always, try to keep a free and open line for communication. There is no reason not to. If either of you aren't being pleased in bed, you should be able to say something about it. If you don't, well Matt, get used to having a sore penis.

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Blowjobs

Posted By: Admin - On: February 18, 2010
by Jessica Sanders

First I will say this, I know there are a lot of women out there who don-t like giving or receiving oral sex. I understand that you may think that it is dirty or like in an Asian country some women have stopped as they think it is an evil sin. I will have to find out where this article is and perhaps publish the web address in my next column. Why am I writing about giving your man a blowjob in my column you may ask, well I believe that if you please your man like he tries to please you, then to please him will please you too. When giving a blowjob, giving head or going down on your man, did you know that this form of sexual gratification too could turn you on?

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How do you give the perfect blowjob?


Hehehehe, blowjobs, bjs hmmmmm- good topic don-t you think?


Giving a blowjob can be such a turn of for both parties so try it before you say you don-t like it.


Once again like with the guys you both need to be comfortable with it. If you feel that it is not a clean -tool- then have a shower together. Ladies take it in your hands, grab the soap, lather it up and wash it, play with it, see how it responds to your touch.


If there is room in the shower, kneel down in front of him and look closely at it, see how clean it is, before flicking your tongue over the tip. See how clean it is- Now you know that it-s clean because you helped wash it thoroughly, Close your mouth around it and feel it grow hard in your warm, moist mouth.


Take control and enjoy it as much as your partner!!


If you are being sensual and your partner tries to thrust causing you to deep throat and gag when you are not ready, grab him gently with you teeth, not tight enough to break the skin but tight enough to stop him-


Do not break the skin-

if you do all the romantic desires will have gone!!!!!


Ladies use your tongue, flicking it backwards and forwards as you suck. You can do both at the same time. Trust me on that one-


Now if you feel comfortable sucking him in the shower, get off your knees and head to somewhere a bit more comfortable, like the bed, continue what you were already doing but in a different position.


Ok first if you have lube - like KY jelly handy grab that before getting onto the bed, flavoured is great-.


Have your guy lay down on the bed, kneel between his knees, squeeze a little bit of the lube, covering both hands-


Take his penis into your hands, see how slippery and sensual it is, gently massaging the shaft with both hands, occasionally teasing the head paying particular attention to the underside of the head.


Remember that you must be gentle that is why I keep referring to that particular word.


Now ladies hold on to his cock, use your tongue flicking over the head, lick the head all over and use the flat of your tongue to cover more area, gently suck on the head, sucking it into your mouth at the same time flick your tongue back and forwards around the head. Pay particular attention to the Frenulum (the underside of the penis), as it-s the most sensitive part of the glans (the head of the penis).


Tease him and please him at the same time, you can do it!


Run your hands over his inner thighs as you mouth moves on his shaft. Lower your mouth over his shaft and the trick to taking in as much as you can - to deep throat is to breath out as you are taking him in. I know this is a big ask, but concentrate on your breathing at the same time to avoid the uncontrollable urges you may get. I won-t go into detail, but I am sure you know what I am talking about.


As you suck him deep into your mouth and with your hand around the lowest part of the shaft pump him gently as your mouth rides his hot swollen penis.


As a bonus for your partner with the hand that is almost free, gently massage your partner-s testicles. Squeeze them, hold them, run your finger nails over them - there-s that word again -gently-, and at the same time sensually play with them.


Now the choice is yours. If your partner is your long-term partner and you feel you would like to taste him and swallow his cum, then read on, if not skip this paragraph and go on to the next- Your partner-s cock is throbbing with anticipation as your tongue works it-s magic, you taste his pre-cum it-s salty but nice, you wrap your hand firmly but not too tight around his cock, with your mouth sucking him deep, keep sucking as you pump him faster and faster- Keep stroking him until you feel his cock throb and suddenly he explodes sending his hot creamy cum down your throat- Look at him and lick your lips to show how much you enjoyed sucking his rod dry-


For the ladies who don-t like the taste, when you feel your partner-s cock throbbing and you feel his hips starting to thrust against you, take your mouth of his penis and with your hand wrapped firmly around his shaft pump faster and faster. Let your partner tell you how fast and how hard to stroke him as he gets nearer and nearer to dropping his load for you.


As he ejaculates let him know that you are excited too. I love watching a guy cum so as he is crying out in pleasure, if you are enjoying it too then I am sure you will know what to do- Taking control of your partner-s orgasm ultimately is a turn-on- learn how to give that special blowjob as it can ultimately be a satisfying experience for all involved.

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Oral sex techniques

Posted By: Admin - On: February 02, 2010
The vagina is a sort of cave of wonders for most men. This organ that is so different from the penis in its physical shape has always been one of the most powerful turn-ons for men and also a constant source of attraction. Men simply can-t help being curious about it and also about the many techniques they can use on it to give pleasure. Fingers, toys, tongue, lips and penis, nearly all the small parts of our bodies that we can move at all have been used to please women.

And here are a few tips for all you people willing to make your lovers happy, but who are unsure of how to go about it. It doesn-t really matter how you feel about going down on a woman- just keep in mind that she will love it if you really know how to do it and that she will probably be happy to reciprocate. What could be better than a hot lady going down on you and not just out of a sense of obligation, but because she actually wants to do it? Those who are already proficient at oral sex and only want to brush up their skills should read on. This information can-t hurt you.

The best oral sex technique is based on a slow approach that is meant to increase the woman-s arousal without spoiling the mood by being too rough. Start by spreading the labia with two fingers and licking her from the vaginal opening up to the clitoris. Keep at it for a while, changing the movement pattern from time to time, and then have a go at the vagina. Most of the nerve endings that convey the sensation of pleasure are located within the first few inches of the vagina. So stick your tongue in. It won-t go very far inside, but you can move it in circles just inside the opening.

Once the woman is hot enough that licking her vagina is not enough anymore, you can move on to the most sensitive target. Pull back her labia and bring the clitoris into the light. Now you can greet the clitoris with a quick suck. Just take it in your mouth, slide your lips up and down it and then let go. After the initial greeting, you can get to some serious business by taking the clitoris between your lips and flicking your tongue over it. The speed of the tongue depends on how sensitive the clitoris in question is.

Oral sex goes hand in hand with G-spot or anal stimulation. It-s perfectly natural that while your tongue is playing with the clitoris or tracing the labia, your fingers should wonder around. So stick a finger or two inside her vagina (the palm of your hand must face up), a couple of inches from the opening. Then move your fingers as if you-re making the -come hither- sign on the front wall of the vagina. If you-re on target, you should feel a little bump in the wall and your lady should let out a cry of delight.

Alternatively, you can stick a finger inside her anus and introduce her to the exotic pleasure from beyond the Great Wall of the Vagina. Use lubrication on your finger and on her anus. Don-t think you-re man enough to go in dry, because you-ll only get a kick in the face. If you do it right, there-ll be heaven in store for you and more.

One of the most common licking techniques for the long haul is the alphabet technique. The basic idea is to move your tongue over her clitoris in the shape of all the letters in the alphabet. This suggestion accomplishes two goals at the same time because it allows the man to use some variation in the movement pattern, but not enough to spoil the mood, and to prevent the unskilled lover from using the same movements again and again until the lady gets bored.

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What is PMS?

Posted By: Admin - On: January 17, 2010
Each month like clockwork, most of women come down with a strange collection of symptoms. Crying spells, mood swings, bloating, headache, fatigue, cramps, and the list goes on. One minute you like to take a bite of chocolate, pizza the next. They snap at their family or bite their friends' head off at the slightest provocation, and then break down to tears because they feel bloated and simply hate the way they look.

Most people, especially the male population, are quick to dismiss it as "that time of the month." Women's mood swings had become stereotyped as PMS, an excuse use to justify giving in on their food cravings and acting like a shrew.

However, doctors nowadays recognize PMS as a real medical condition with physical and psychological symptoms. PMS or premenstrual syndrome is a set of hormonal changes that generate a variety of both physical and emotional symptoms in women. It usually occurs between 7 to 14 days before actual "period" and then disappears once the menstruation begins. Women may experience PMS during her childbearing years or sometimes even after menopause.

Bloating, cramps, fatigue, breast tenderness, and irritability, does this sound familiar? Well you are not alone for studies shows that about 95% of women experience some of over 150 symptoms associated to PMS. The degree of severity varies, some women felt only minor discomfort while for others the symptoms are unbearable enough to interfere with their lives. The symptoms may differ from one person to another and may change from cycle to cycle.

Normally, the psychological symptoms of PMS include mood changes like crying spells, depression, anxiety, anger, sadness or irritability. Psychological symptoms may also include some changes in mental functioning such as difficulty in concentrating or remembering as well as changes in sex drive.

On the other hand, a wide range of physical symptoms are associated with PMS. Some of the most commonly observed physical symptoms would include fatigue, insomnia, headache, acne, cramps, breast tenderness, bloating, joint or muscle pain. Occasionally, some women experience upset stomach, diarrhea, or constipation. Women with PMS also tend to give in to their food cravings especially for carbohydrates, chocolate or other sweets.

Although real test to diagnose PMS has not yet been created, doctors may conduct tests to rule out other conditions that cause similar symptoms. When the symptoms assent with the monthly cycle and the woman's tests are negative for other conditions, then PMS is generally determined to be the cause of her symptoms.

There are several conditions to rule out when considering PMS. That includes anemia, diabetes, hypothyroidism, perimenopause, endometriosis, dysmenorrhea and autoimmune disorders.

On the other hand, some of the psychological conditions that should be ruled out include eating disorders, alcohol abuse, personality disorders and chronic fatigue syndrome. Oral contraceptive side effects should also be ruled out when considering PMS. To further confirm doctor's diagnosis, keeping a monthly diary of symptoms would also be helpful.

PMS is still considered as a largely mysterious phenomenon by the medical community and had been a subject for research and some ongoing studies. Since there has been no single cause of PMS identified or accepted by the medical community, it is likely that PMS is due to a variety of factors, as well as because of genetics, environment and lifestyle factors like nutrition and stress.

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Good Vibrations

Posted By: Admin - On: January 01, 2010
by Peter James

Of all the toys and devices used to give sexual pleasure, the vibrator is the most Common. When you want to add a little variety to your encounters, or you want something that can stimulate faster, you can't beat a good vibrator. They're also perfect if the woman you're with has trouble reaching orgasm through other methods, and are very effective for masturbation. Vibrators come in several common forms, but the ones generally used for pleasure are either the wand style or the dildo style. Wands have long handles that usually have on-off and speed controls on them...

They have a pad at the end that vibrates, and can be put against your penis, your girlfriend's clitoris, or a variety of other interesting places. These vibrators usually plug into the wall, and some have extremely powerful motors.


-The common dildo shaped vibrator is shaped somewhat like a penis, and is between seven and ten inches long. Most vibrators of this type are battery operated. The can be inserted into the vagina, or held in place to stimulate the clitoris, nipples, penis or testicles. Many dildo shaped vibrators come with sleeves that slip over the vibrator itself.

-They have many different textures and can change the thickness of the vibrator.

-Some of these vibrators also have a collar that rotates, and some come with special side attachments to stimulate the anus or clitoris while being inserted inside the vagina.

These can leave you with an extra hand available for other activities.


-Some vibrators also come with attachments. These attachments can cause entirely different sensations. You can find attachments that are made especially for anal penetration, or for vaginal. There are attachments with different textures for extra sensation. There are special attachments made to stimulate the prostate gland. There are even attachments made to penetrate the vagina with a little piece made to simultaneously stimulate the clit.


If the woman you're with is uncomfortable trying toys for the first time, a vibrator is an excellent choice because she can enjoy considerable stimulation without any penetration. Also most vibrators have more than one speed, so if a higher level is too high for her, perhaps a slower one will be perfect.


If you find the noise a vibrator makes to be distracting, you can wrap the handle in a towel or blanket. As long as it is outside of the body. Be sure not to immerse a vibrator in water, and to always use lubrication to insert anything into any opening in the body.


They now make remote control vibrators that you can change the speed of without touching the actual vibrator. They even make small remote control vibrators that you can insert inside your partner or place over her clitoris by means of a special panty. With these vibrators, you can control the vibrator from across the table or across the room. You can make your partner come without even touching her. The possibility for games with these are nearly endless.


You can add new games and dimensions to your lovemaking with a vibrator, and make your masturbation a whole new experience. I recommend you try them if you're looking for a way to put a little spice in your sex life.

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